Although, we very often glorify the power of infatuation and falling in love, we forget about the later stage, which requires attention to our relationship. In love is not so, that feeling is given on a platter, and if we loved someone 10 years ago, we cannot be sure that common life will not change it. Unfortunately, this can be changed many times and usually for the worse.
Time infatuation and butterflies in the belly passes relatively quickly. This is our human nature. After first year our heart is not beating so crazy, when we are thinking of meeting with our partner. Instead of it, other feelings appear – they aren’t worse but different. This is the trust and safety. At one time, when we were thinking of our partner, our voice was trembling, our breath was shorter. Today the situation is different. If we have a worse day at work, we dream of our home where we can talk to someone who will always understand us. Is any of these feelings worse? No, but we have to accept they are quite different.
When our relationship is long we need to take care of it every day.
People often think that they know inside out and do not have too much to talk about. Unfortunately, very often in long-term relationships conversations are limited to exchange simple messages regarding the purchase or clean the house. Very often we forget how great companion conversation was our partner. No wonder if we demote it only for household chores and mundane situations.
ONLY TIME FOR YOU & YOUR PARTNER
The fact that we are together for a long time, does not mean that we should avoid dating. We should periodically wear something elegant and go to a restaurant or a coffee. It is worth to promise that the date will be at least once a month. Think of this time as a moment to talk about your passions, dreams and desires. As in the past.
We should see each other and our feelings and needs every day, not only during holidays. Take some time every day. For relationships with longer experience is very refreshing to find a new common passion. Such passions can be even very simple things: running, watching independent films, coloring, sewing – as soon as you made a pleasure. This form of time spent together will approach you to each other.
It is time to stop. Stop rushing. A little spontaneity, won’t harm and only enhance the quality of our relationship. Maybe just like that you go for a long spring walk? Pack your backpack and go somewhere for the weekend or just go out on a date after shopping, to feel with each other superbly.
EVERYONE SHOULD HAVE HIS OWN WORLD
Balance is the key point in every relationship. Something should connect us, but also something should divide us. It is worth to have our own friends and own passions. Contrary to appearances, this does not exclude the interests shared with a partner. If we have our own world, where there is no access our man or woman, we do not forget about our individuality. Remember that being ivy kills virtually every relationship – sooner or later.